Feeling critical or judgmental of ourselves or others is a very damaging emotion. It creates a sense of separateness and a fear of experimentation. When we are critical of ourselves, we become tense and edgy. When we are critical of others, we start to feel superior. None of this nourishes a creative interconnection.
Criticism of our behavior can be helpful under certain circumstances: (a) We have asked for feedback. (b) The feedback is specific and tells us both what we did well and how we might improve. (c) The feedback is focused on behavior, not our character.
Try this for a week: Each day notice one time when you speak critically of yourself. Reword what you are saying so that you thank yourself for being open to learning. How does that feel?
Award-winning author & social change specialist
In 1996, I was the first Canadian appointed by the then Prime Minister Chrétien to represent Canada on the APEC Business Advisory Council, holding the small and medium size enterprise portfolio. My professional work has focused on teaching, speaking, writing, and consulting on service in its broadest sense:
1. Services in economic development: Since 1981, I have developed and taught graduate courses on the management and marketing of international services, consulted with governments on services trade issues & negotiation strategies, trained over 1,500 trade officers & 45 service industry associations to assist service exporters more effectively, and trained over 10,500 small service exporters in 86 countries to export services successfully. I’ve written 8 handbooks for the International Trade Centre UNCTAD/WTO, and developed online tools to assess services export competitiveness.
2. Services to address social issues: In 1972, I began the first BA-granting Women Studies program at City University of New York. Since then I have worked on a range of social issues including gender, homophobia, and labor force development. With Valerie Ward, I co-developed the Employment Readiness Scale™ (www.EmploymentReadiness.info) to help organizations assist their clients to be successful in their work lives.
3. Service as a spiritual practice: In my work on spiritual development, I have written articles focused particularly on feminist spirituality, the importance of language in shaping how we view and understand the world, and the nature of the Will in spiritual practice.
Keynote speaker/ facilitator
Services & economic development
New world of work
I have been a frequent expert guest on radio programs and am available for discussion on the topics listed above. See my most recent interviews on Transformation Talk Radio.