What do we need to do to be harmless? For me, it means taking responsibility for angry or demeaning thoughts about others instead of taking my feelings out on them, either verbally or in my thoughts. This doesn’t mean that I’m “bad” to have such thoughts, just that I need to deal with them energetically rather than let them harm others.
Here’s what I do if I am really angry with someone else: I set up a white light “shower” between myself and the world. Then I get into feeling as angry or frustrated as I wish, while recognizing that the feelings are about me, not the other person. When all that angry energy passes through the white light shower, it comes out “pink” (benign) on the other side.
What about you? What do you do to make sure you don’t harm others when you are angry or frustrated?
Award-winning author & social change specialist
In 1996, I was the first Canadian appointed by the then Prime Minister Chrétien to represent Canada on the APEC Business Advisory Council, holding the small and medium size enterprise portfolio. My professional work has focused on teaching, speaking, writing, and consulting on service in its broadest sense:
1. Services in economic development: Since 1981, I have developed and taught graduate courses on the management and marketing of international services, consulted with governments on services trade issues & negotiation strategies, trained over 1,500 trade officers & 45 service industry associations to assist service exporters more effectively, and trained over 10,500 small service exporters in 86 countries to export services successfully. I’ve written 8 handbooks for the International Trade Centre UNCTAD/WTO, and developed online tools to assess services export competitiveness.
2. Services to address social issues: In 1972, I began the first BA-granting Women Studies program at City University of New York. Since then I have worked on a range of social issues including gender, homophobia, and labor force development. With Valerie Ward, I co-developed the Employment Readiness Scale™ (www.EmploymentReadiness.info) to help organizations assist their clients to be successful in their work lives.
3. Service as a spiritual practice: In my work on spiritual development, I have written articles focused particularly on feminist spirituality, the importance of language in shaping how we view and understand the world, and the nature of the Will in spiritual practice.
Keynote speaker/ facilitator
Services & economic development
New world of work
I have been a frequent expert guest on radio programs and am available for discussion on the topics listed above. See my most recent interviews on Transformation Talk Radio.